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The-Y-Factor. | August 3, 2010


I have been thinking lately about human being, our sensitivity, our make up, what make us tick. I mean that thing called “body language” then my thought took me so down, I got thinking………………………………………………………..


We have all heard and know about “X FACTOR!” –  The UNKNOWN FACTOR, now I want to take you in into what I called –


What is a Y Factor?

I say the Y Factor is the ‘THE YOU FACTOR’ in other word – KNOWN FACTOR. Is used this because; in sincerity to ourselves, we know who we are; sometimes we are scared or refused to let people in into our real self. Hence; it’s a KNOWN FACTOR!

This is factor determined who you are,  what you do, your background, your social status, the kind of friends you keep, your career path, who you will be,  the height you will/might go,  in summary this is you! this  is the factor that represent you, even when you are not there.

Some of us right from the early part of our life will allow family, people, friends even the society at large change us from who we really are.

The Y-factor is an important factor in our life, all we need is; discover who we really are, and let this guide us. For a start, I will say know your temperament or temperament combination, if this is known, it will help us a great deal in accepting something about ourselves, deal with some of our flaws, compromise with some, if we are sincere to ourselves, we won’t be living a life of lies; but living our life as we want and should and this will do nothing but make us fulfill and happy.

Steps to discovering or uncovering your y-factor:

  1. Your temperament: Our temperament influences everything we do in life so we must know it, apply it and live by it. As we all know there are 4 types: Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic. Some people have more than one traits of temperament. All we need do is study our make then we will know our makeup.
  1. b. What is the force behind you? We as human have different driving force.  But critically looking one thing remains even behind our driving force. And I say it’s – faith. Faith has been defined by many with diverse perspective to it. To the oxford dictionary faith is: Strong believes in something/someone, Strong religious believe. Intentions to do right.There are many synonyms for the word faith.Confidence, reliance, conviction, assurance, believe, devotion, trust loyalty etc.

Put all these in whatever you do, the sky is the beginning of your journey in life. To me faith is that which keeps you moving everyday, which wake you up every night, which drive you through every hour. It that thing that makes you believe in tomorrow. Your tomorrow!

  1. Perseverance: according to the Oxford dictionary is the quality of continuing to try to achieve a particular aim, in spite of difficulties. Perseverance is the determination to go on. For faith to prevail it needs perseverance. Hence; faith and perseverance goes hand – in hand, they are twin! Behind an atom of faith there lies a mountain of perseverance. In other words faith can’t stand alone, because perseverance is the fuel that gets faith moving.
  2. Your desire: only if we know what we can do with this, I believe our desire in life is really what we want in life, from life and for yourself. The worst thing that can happen to anybody is living a settled for life; by this I mean giving up on ourselves and settling for what comes our way. According to Napoleon Hill; “Your desire can be transformed into gold! Do you believe this? Yes! It can”
  3. Don’t Quit!: this seems to be like a second nature to upcoming people In any field of life, no one start it once and get it then, we have read about thousands of success stories, how they started, the sleepless night, the burnt candles, the tears that goes into it, the fears, the rejection; alas! All these happens to every great person on earth; of course they might have that thought of quitting and letting go, but still the forge ahead and finally they get it right, and this is when the world we hear about them and accept them. Again According to Napoleon Hill; “Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and, perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to QUIT. That is exactly what the majority of men do. We all know that Failure is a trickster with a keen sense of irony and cunning. It takes great delight in tripping one when success is almost within reach.
  4. Be yourself: When you entered into a place, it takes at most 5 minutes for whoever you are meeting to know you, you don’t need to talk or get acquitted. The silent things in us speak volume about us – our carriage, aura, posture, attitude, greeting, poise. All these and more; shout to the world this is me! There are other things that represents us, this things tell our audience, even at our absent, who we are and what we stand for – picture, write-ups, CV, projects and more. To this end, we need good image packaging and branding to portray us to the world, in the fashion and manner we want to be portrayed.

Are you sassy, saucy, lazy? You don’t need to say it; for it will proclaim itself!

Are you classy, respective, hard-working, self-assured, self motivated, team worker? Don’t blow your trumpet, we hear it, see it and feel it.

You are who you tell the world, without you saying it out.

What signal are you giving out? What name are you answering to? What move you? What motivate you? What are you listening to?

These and more make you, this is who you are!

If it’s worthy of emulation keep it up; if it’s not; now is the time for your change, nothing is too late!

This is what the world sees!

This is your Y- Factor

Hm; friends I hope you find strength, help, solace in this piece of my work above all i Hope you are entertained

Till we meet again,

I remain yours as always


Go be who you want to be!

Go impact your world!



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HI, I am Abiola Olowolagba by name and I am penned as "saphemerald." I am an avid writer, writing is everything to me - it's life, food and companion. I warmly welcome you my blog, to share with you thought from passionate mind and share with you my creative writings. My inspiration in life varies, and can sometime be that thing you think is nothing I am a big dreamer! And sometime my dream seems too big for some minds; funny? but I know great minds are presume incredible. My dream and vision as a writer is to be......... the first Nigerian maybe African to win an Oscar for best script. WHAT DO I WRITE ABOUT? Love, life, family, death, spirituality, mystery and forms of creative writing. Like I always say: GIVE ME A SOMETHING; I will give to you a novel, script, poem even a play. Finally I am here to learn and grow Warm wishes Saphemerald







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